The Advice the XXY Team Have Been Given on “Time”

The Advice the XXY Team Have Been Given on “Time”

“Time And Tide Waits For No-one”

My grandmother, the woman who raised me, always reminds me that the woman who raised her would say, ‘Girl, time and tide waits for no-one’. It means, no-one has the power to stop time from marching on. Or no-one has the power to stop the ocean from following the routine commands of the moon. Sometimes she would say it to me as I was dwindling around the living room, trying to get an extra five minutes of television in before the school day. As if that day itself was an opportunity in a constant state of motion. Leaving me behind if I did not pursue it. Also, prompting me not to be late for school. ‘Time and tide waits for no-oneis one amongst many pearls of wisdom I grew up listening to with my Northern nan. Have that girl, I’ll starve. In other words, we don’t have much but you have it all. Wish in one hand and shit in the other. In other words, stop moaning and start doing. Time and tide. It is a saying that sings out tunes of the past. Words passed down from generation to generation. Each one warning the next that nothing and no-one really waits. It is a piece of advice that guides you and reminds you of the inevitably of time passing, but gives enough scope for you to decide how you will go from there. Sometimes words come together and live together, simply, leaving prints on how you understand the world; connect you to a great grandmother you never met, through the traces of time spent with her daughter, your grandmother.

Michelle Houlston

Junior Editor

“Time is money”

Said my educated immigrant father, who worked blue collar jobs meaning he truly emboided this phrase. Ironically, I’ve chosen a career where it’s difficult to monetise a true love.

It’s not impossible.Writers have been doing it throughout time, but they didn’t have the internet in the past.

But what I’ve realised through time is that this phrase has got more to do with knowing your worth and that it is fine to make someone wake up, smell the coffee, pay for it and realise how good your time was spent. We rely too much on art or craftsmanship being for free while we enjoy (and possibly) take a photo of it (ok, always) and not think about the welfare behind that artist and the fact  that they need a sandwich here and there too. Time is money and apparently, it’s still money which makes the world go around.

Tahmina Begum

CEO and Editor-in-Chief


“Everything in its own time”

This is what my Serbian grandmother used to tell me each summer holiday that I went to visit her. From a woman whose life was the complete opposite of mine – a country housewife who kept chickens and milked her own cow, who cooked and cleaned, who never left her own small town – but who was contented. Someone who didn’t have the choices available to me, but who could still understand my restlessness. Whatever was happening in my adult life, my grandmother had this calm, assured, belief and confidence in me that I would manage to work everything out. It turned out to be true, just more slowly than I would have liked.

Our generation is always in a hurry, trying to be the trailblazers of a buy-now, instant gratification age. Perhaps we can still learn from those with their roots in the past. They say patience is a virtue. Well, my grandmother was the one who truly had it.

Vanessa Moore,

Features Editor


Visuals created by Roisin O’Hare,

Editorial Assistant

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